This is going to be a post that might warrant a little interaction. I am writing on what I believe love looks like between humans that leads to a marriage (not just friends) that works. This is written in such a way that it is most obviously not going to be agreed with by anyone, in part or in whole, take your pick. I believe that the way you come to know and nurture a relationship with your mate is completely up to the types of individuals involved. (Oh my gosh Useless Desires-Patty Griffin is amazing) Whatever the relationship though compassion needs to be at the center of it. I believe that is a key emotion/way of relating that Jesus had while on earth. A reoccurring theme in the gospels is that Jesus was moved by compassion to deal with a person or people. I believe that compassion needs to be central because it is closely tied to selflessness. Without these two a relationship has no hope. A selfish person has little hope of being satisfying to their mate. Love does not think about one's self.
A part of that is not needing an earthly relationship to supplement the one that we should have with the Father. A friend once told me they did not think they should be in a relationship until they could completely rely on God. I belive this fits my point very well. I also believe this is why the Bible says we should not be unequally yolked. When married the wife and husband become one, I believe that we are supposed to deepen each others relationship with God. To me a good relationship builds up our relationship with God along with our earthly relationship.
That is all I have for now. I know it is not that much, but I was thinking about how compassion and selflessness has helped my relationship.
